Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Where is Mei Mei?
Mei Mei is waiting for us in Maoming, Guangdong, China. Coincidentally (if you believe in coincidence), it is right "next door" to Huazhou where her big sister spent the 1st year of her life. The two locations can easily be seen on the lower map (click to enlarge). It is about a "4-6 hour train ride" to Guangzhou, where we will likely be based. (Guangzhou is where the US Consulate is located.)
Monday, December 29, 2008
A stork sighting ... ?
Saturday, December 27, 2008
Christmas Dresses
My mother-in-law made these charming dresses for her granddaughter and great-granddaughter to wear on Christmas Eve. She's actually quite an accomplished seamstress. Unfortunately, the picture doesn't do them justice. Elizabeth's dress was a dazzling red trimmed with green beads and Brianna's dress was a gorgeous green trimmed with red beads. The girls looked absolutely beautiful and were able to twirl to their hearts' content. It was a wonderful gift.
Thursday, December 25, 2008
A Christmas Lesson
"Is there a purpose? Why are we here?"
A little boy asked as the yuletide drew near.
"I really do hope that someday I will know
the reason we stand out here in the snow,
ringing this bell as people walk by,
while thousands of snowflakes
descend from the sky."
The mother just smiled at her shivering son
who would rather be playing and having some fun
but soon would discover before evening was done
the meaning of Christmas
the very first one.
The young boy exclaimed, "Mother where does it go?"
"All the pennies we collect - every year in the snow."
"Why do we do it? Why do we care?"
"We worked for these pennies,
so why should we share?"
"Because once a baby - so meek and so mild
was born in a manger - so humble the child
the son of a King - was born in this way
to give us the message
He carried that day.
"The present God gave the world on that night,
was the gift of his son to make everything right.
Why did he do it? Why did he care?
To teach about loving
and how we should share."
"The meaning of Christmas, you see my dear son,
is not about presents or just having fun
but the gift of a father - his own precious Son
so the world would be saved
when his work was all done"
Now the little boy smiled - with a tear in his eye
as snowflakes kept falling from out of the sky -
rang louder the bell as the people walked by
while down deep in his heart
at last he knew why.
Tom Krause
Thursday, December 4, 2008
December referrals ...
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Frustration ...
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Remember how women got the vote?
The women were innocent and defenseless. And by the end of the night, they were barely alive. Forty prison guards wielding clubs and their warden's blessing went on a rampage against the 33 helpless women wrongly convicted of "obstructing sidewalk traffic."
They beat Lucy Burn, chained her hands to the cell bars above her head and left her hanging for the night, bleeding and gasping for air. They hurled Dora Lewis into a dark cell, smashed her head against an iron bed and knocked her out cold. Her cellmate, Alice Cosu, thought Lewis was dead and suffered a heart attack. Additional affidavits describe the guards grabbing, dragging, beating, choking, slamming, pinching, twisting and kicking the women.
Thus unfolded the "Night of Terror" on Nov. 15, 1917, when the warden at the Occoquan Workhouse in Virginia ordered his guards to teach a lesson to the suffragists imprisoned there because they dared to picket Woodrow Wilson's White House for the right to vote.
For weeks, the women's only water came from an open pail. Their food--all of it colorless slop--was infested with worms. When one of the leaders, Alice Paul, embarked on a hunger strike, they tied her to a chair, forced a tube down her throat and poured liquid into her until she vomited. She was tortured like this for weeks until word was smuggled out to the press.
The movie "Iron Jawed Angels" is a graphic depiction of the battle these women waged so that I could pull the curtain at the polling booth and have my say. It is shocking to watch Woodrow Wilson and his cronies try to persuade a psychiatrist to declare Alice Paul insane so that she could be permanently institutionalized. And it is inspiring to watch the doctor refuse. Alice Paul was strong, he said, and brave. That didn't make her crazy. The doctor admonished the men: "Courage in women is often mistaken for insanity."
So, refresh my memory. Some women won't vote this year because--why, exactly? We have carpool duties? We have to get to work? Our vote doesn't matter? It's raining?
Friday, October 31, 2008
Happy Halloween!
Elizabeth was a pretty little kitty cat this year. Her costume was in stark contrast to her Goth teenage cousins, so they decided she could be their "familiar." And Elizabeth was a trooper. Her pumpkin basket got heavier and heavier as our neighbors filled it with lots of goodies, but she refused to let anyone carry it (or any portion of it) for her. By the time we got home, she was pretty much dragging it along the ground. The girl's got grit!
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Happy Birthday, Lizzie Bear ...
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Rumors ...
Rumor has it that matching has begun, which means the next batch of referrals will soon be here. It's a longshot that our LID of 2/27/06 will be in, but stranger things have happened!
By the way, have you ever wondered how ladybugs came to symbolize China adoption? You see them on everything from blogs to adoption announcements, on jewelry and baby clothes. Although ladybugs represent good luck in many cultures, it seems that several years ago in China, as the international adoption programs were beginning to take off, there was a fall season where the ladybug population grew unusually large. This was thought to be a lucky charm for those that were adopting, so now whenever ladybugs are seen, it is said that more beautiful children are being referred to their waiting parents and families.
By the way, have you ever wondered how ladybugs came to symbolize China adoption? You see them on everything from blogs to adoption announcements, on jewelry and baby clothes. Although ladybugs represent good luck in many cultures, it seems that several years ago in China, as the international adoption programs were beginning to take off, there was a fall season where the ladybug population grew unusually large. This was thought to be a lucky charm for those that were adopting, so now whenever ladybugs are seen, it is said that more beautiful children are being referred to their waiting parents and families.
Monday, October 27, 2008
New England
We took a few days and drove to Gloucester, MA for a mini-vacation. It was a bit past "peak," but the colors were gorgeous. En route to Gloucester, we stopped in Old Sturbridge Village. The largest outdoor history museum in the Northeast, OSV is a journey through time to a rural New England town of the 1830s. There are more than 40 original buildings, each carefully researched, restored, and brought to the museum site from towns throughout New England. These include homes, meetinghouses, a district school, country store, bank, law office, printing office, carding mill, sawmill, gristmill, pottery, blacksmith shop, shoe shop, and cooper shop. Authentically costumed staff carry out the daily activities of an early 19th-century community. Here you may wander country roads and visit with a farmer plowing fields, listen to the blacksmith's rhythmic hammering, or smell the aroma of bread baking in a fireplace oven. I even tried my hand at dipping candles, while Jim and Elizabeth made a tin candle holder for my tapers.
We then moved on to Gloucester, MA. America's oldest seaport, Gloucester is part of Cape Ann and located 30 miles northeast of Boston. The main portion of Gloucester is an island, connected only by two bridges. Other towns making up "Cape Ann" are Rockport, Manchester and Essex. We spent some time shopping in Rockport and visited the Essex Shipbuilding Museum. The rest of our time was spent on the beach flying kites, collecting seashells and building sandcastles. Elizabeth asked us to find a house in Gloucester, so we could go to the beach every day. I think Jim was considering it. We did opt to stay at the oceanfront motel where we'd spent a night on our honeymoon some 17 years ago, and this was the sunrise from our balcony. Worth every penny.
Elizabeth is a great traveler. She passed the hours in the car drawing in her activity books, making rainbows on her Light Brite, and playing Leapster games (as well as an occasional "I Spy" game with Mama). She relished every new experience, well, except for one. The Whale Watch could have gone better. It turns out that our girl gets motion sickness. In all fairness, however, many of the folks on that trip got sick - it was a VERY rough ride (and I've got the bruises to prove it)! Still, after throwing up her toes, she mustered a smile and a "Wow!" when she saw the humpback whale. And it didn't take long for her to recover. As soon as her feet hit solid ground, she was ready to roll again. Looks like she's gonna be a landlubber like her Mama.
Despite the battering, I have to say that I got a real thrill out of seeing the animals in their natural habitat. We started out heading for the popular Stellwagen Bank, but the Captain changed course to Jeffreys Ledge after communicating with other boats. We weren't disappointed. We first saw a group of Atlantic dolphins that came right up alongside the boat. We then met a humpback whale named "Flask" (for a specific marking on his fluke). On the way back to Gloucester, we saw a Minke whale breach twice (or maybe it was 2 whales). The Naturalist on board (from the Whale Center of New England) said they believe that breaching is a form of communication between whales. It seemed logical as we then watched a humpback whale breach in the far distance, seemingly in response to the Minke whale(s).
In the end, although the stunning fall foliage and dramatic ocean vistas may have set the stage for a fabulous vacation, I think the 3 things I will remember most are: (1) the absolute pleasure Elizabeth took in building her sandcastle and decorating it with seashells she'd discovered along the shore, (2) watching Elizabeth fly a kite with her Dad, and (3) hearing Elizabeth laugh hysterically as she ran from the waves lapping at her feet. It just doesn't get any better.
We then moved on to Gloucester, MA. America's oldest seaport, Gloucester is part of Cape Ann and located 30 miles northeast of Boston. The main portion of Gloucester is an island, connected only by two bridges. Other towns making up "Cape Ann" are Rockport, Manchester and Essex. We spent some time shopping in Rockport and visited the Essex Shipbuilding Museum. The rest of our time was spent on the beach flying kites, collecting seashells and building sandcastles. Elizabeth asked us to find a house in Gloucester, so we could go to the beach every day. I think Jim was considering it. We did opt to stay at the oceanfront motel where we'd spent a night on our honeymoon some 17 years ago, and this was the sunrise from our balcony. Worth every penny.
Elizabeth is a great traveler. She passed the hours in the car drawing in her activity books, making rainbows on her Light Brite, and playing Leapster games (as well as an occasional "I Spy" game with Mama). She relished every new experience, well, except for one. The Whale Watch could have gone better. It turns out that our girl gets motion sickness. In all fairness, however, many of the folks on that trip got sick - it was a VERY rough ride (and I've got the bruises to prove it)! Still, after throwing up her toes, she mustered a smile and a "Wow!" when she saw the humpback whale. And it didn't take long for her to recover. As soon as her feet hit solid ground, she was ready to roll again. Looks like she's gonna be a landlubber like her Mama.
Despite the battering, I have to say that I got a real thrill out of seeing the animals in their natural habitat. We started out heading for the popular Stellwagen Bank, but the Captain changed course to Jeffreys Ledge after communicating with other boats. We weren't disappointed. We first saw a group of Atlantic dolphins that came right up alongside the boat. We then met a humpback whale named "Flask" (for a specific marking on his fluke). On the way back to Gloucester, we saw a Minke whale breach twice (or maybe it was 2 whales). The Naturalist on board (from the Whale Center of New England) said they believe that breaching is a form of communication between whales. It seemed logical as we then watched a humpback whale breach in the far distance, seemingly in response to the Minke whale(s).
In the end, although the stunning fall foliage and dramatic ocean vistas may have set the stage for a fabulous vacation, I think the 3 things I will remember most are: (1) the absolute pleasure Elizabeth took in building her sandcastle and decorating it with seashells she'd discovered along the shore, (2) watching Elizabeth fly a kite with her Dad, and (3) hearing Elizabeth laugh hysterically as she ran from the waves lapping at her feet. It just doesn't get any better.
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
We need your help ... NOW!
As most of you know, there are many hoops to jump through when you decide to adopt a child. Even more so, when you try to adopt internationally. Throw new rules and governmental bureaucracy into that process midstream, and you have a real mess.
We are now what is called a "transition" family. The process to adopt has taken so long that our I-171H may expire before we can complete the adoption. Up until now, all we would have had to do was refile an I-600A form with an updated homestudy - but things have changed with the Hague Convention rules. Although we should be "grandfathered" in, there is some question as to whether or not we can request another extension of the I-600A or if we have to file the new I-800A, which is a bit more complicated and taking 6 months for approval (and many are being denied).
It's even worse for other families who have just found out that their adoption agencies are not Hague-accredited (ours is - yea, New Life!). Those folks may actually have to start all over with a new agency, which essentially means they lose their place in line. Some may have already been waiting more than 2 years! They would also have to file under China's new restrictions, which came into effect in 2007 - we would no longer qualify on the basis of age. It's a complicated mess, but if you want to read more you can check out the JCICS's position at http://www.jcics.org/I600APosition.htm.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE! TAKE A MOMENT NOW TO SIGN THIS PETITION - Adoption for All: The Fairness for Families Petition
http://www.gopetition.com/petitions/adoption-for-all.html
You will be helping not only adoptive parents but the waiting children as well. If you find you have the time and inclination to do more, try these 5 suggestions (http://www.jcics.org/5WaystoHelp.htm). BTW - in case we haven't told you lately, we are so grateful for (and appreciative of) all the love and support our family and friends have given us since we began our adoption journey over 5 years ago. We never could have imagined the rewards it would bring and I thank God everyday not only for Elizabeth, but for all of you who made it possible for us to become a family. You're the best!
We are now what is called a "transition" family. The process to adopt has taken so long that our I-171H may expire before we can complete the adoption. Up until now, all we would have had to do was refile an I-600A form with an updated homestudy - but things have changed with the Hague Convention rules. Although we should be "grandfathered" in, there is some question as to whether or not we can request another extension of the I-600A or if we have to file the new I-800A, which is a bit more complicated and taking 6 months for approval (and many are being denied).
It's even worse for other families who have just found out that their adoption agencies are not Hague-accredited (ours is - yea, New Life!). Those folks may actually have to start all over with a new agency, which essentially means they lose their place in line. Some may have already been waiting more than 2 years! They would also have to file under China's new restrictions, which came into effect in 2007 - we would no longer qualify on the basis of age. It's a complicated mess, but if you want to read more you can check out the JCICS's position at http://www.jcics.org/I600APosition.htm.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE! TAKE A MOMENT NOW TO SIGN THIS PETITION - Adoption for All: The Fairness for Families Petition
http://www.gopetition.com/petitions/adoption-for-all.html
You will be helping not only adoptive parents but the waiting children as well. If you find you have the time and inclination to do more, try these 5 suggestions (http://www.jcics.org/5WaystoHelp.htm). BTW - in case we haven't told you lately, we are so grateful for (and appreciative of) all the love and support our family and friends have given us since we began our adoption journey over 5 years ago. We never could have imagined the rewards it would bring and I thank God everyday not only for Elizabeth, but for all of you who made it possible for us to become a family. You're the best!
Sunday, October 5, 2008
Monday, September 29, 2008
The next batch of babies!!
Referrals have arrived for those with LIDs of 2/10-15/2006 (including 2 sets of twins, a set of twin girls and a set of TWIN BOYS - something I've never seen before)! These dates include a weekend, so it's actually 4 LIDs. We're now 12 days away from our LID of 12/27/2006 - 8 actual LIDs. If CCAA keeps this pace, we can expect to see our little one's face in early December and hopefully travel before the Chinese New Year. Congrats to all the new mamas and babas! You can peep at these pretties on RQ's site at http://chinaadopttalk.com/.
Friday, September 26, 2008
The next batch of rumors ...
Sunday, September 21, 2008
Autumn Moon Festival
This weekend we celebrated the Autumn Moon Festival with other local families with children from China. In Chinese culture, it is a time to reconnect with family and loved ones, and much like our Thanksgiving, it is a time for gratitude and appreciation. For me (and perhaps for E down the road), it is a symbolic way to connect with a birth family, who, although far away, are held close in our hearts.
It was a day of play for the kids with various games and crafts. Who knew I could actually make a Chinese yoyo spin? Several of the students from the Chinese Student Association at the U of R joined in the fun. There was a fashion show and lantern parade, followed by a pot-luck dinner and slide show. And last but not least, was the story teller. The Chinese tell a fascinating legend at the time of the Autumn Moon Festival and this was the version the story teller shared with us (dating back to around 2170 B.C.), with the help of several of the children who acted out the tale as it unfolded:
On the other side of the world is a country with a long and rich history. That country is China. China has many traditions. One of those is called the Moon Festival. Every year in China, on the 15th night of the 8th lunar month, the Chinese people celebrate the Moon Festival. The moon is the most full and bright on that night, they believe, because a husband and wife who lost one another are reunited on the moon.
This is the story of Hou Yi and Chang Er.
Once upon a time there was a famous archer, Hou Yi, who with his arrows was able to slay mankind’s worst enemies, ferocious beasts that inhabited the earth. Yi was married to Chang Er, a beautiful but inquisitive woman who had been an attendant of the queen mother of the west before her marriage. Now at this time, there were 10 suns that took turns circling the earth-one every 10 days. One day, all 10 of the orbs circled, together, causing the earth’s surface to burn and threatening mankind. The wise emperor of China summoned Yi and commanded him to shoot down all but one of the suns. This Yi proceeded to do. Upon the completion of his task, Yi was rewarded with a pill, the elixir of life, and advised: "make no haste to swallow this pill, but first prepare yourself with prayer and fasting for a year." Being a wise man, Yi took the pill home and hid it under a rafter while he began healing his spirit. In the midst of this, Yi was summoned again by the emperor.
While her husband was gone, Chang Er noticed a beam of white light beckoning from the rafter. She followed it and a fragrant perfume, discovered the pill and swallowed it. Immediately, Chang Er found she could fly. Just at that moment her husband returned home. Yi quickly realized what had happened and before he could begin to reprimand his wife, she flew out the window into the sky. Yi sped after Chang Er, bow in hand, and the pursuit continued halfway across the heavens. Finally, Yi had to return to the earth because of the force of the wind.
His wife reached the moon and there, breathless, she coughed. And because part of the pill fell from her mouth, it is there that she came to rest. Now, the hare was already on the moon and Chang Er commanded the animal to take pestle and mortar and pound another pill so that she could return to earth and her husband. The hare is still pounding.
How did the hare get on the moon you ask? Well, there's a legend for that as well: Three sages transformed themselves into pitiful old men and begged for something to eat from a fox, a monkey and a rabbit. The fox and the monkey both had food to give to the old men, but the rabbit, empty-handed, offered his own flesh instead, jumping into a blazing fire to cook himself. The fairies were so touched by the rabbit's sacrifice that they let him live in the Moon Palace where he became the "Jade Rabbit."
As for Yi, he built himself a palace in the sun as Yang (the sun and the male principle). His beloved Chang Er as Yin (the moon and the female principle), resides in the Moon Palace.
Once a year, on the 15th day of the full moon, Yi visits his wife. That is why the moon is full and beautiful on that night.
To celebrate Hou Yi's and Chang Er’s night of love, the Chinese people celebrate the Moon Festival. They eat Moon Cakes, which have a very special meaning. A long time ago the Mongols took over China and they were very cruel to the people. A brave Chinese man named Liu Fu Tong made little cakes in the shape of the moon. Inside each cake he hid a written message that told the people, "On the 15th night of the 8th month, rise up and fight the Mongols to take back our land," and the Chinese people took back their country.
Every culture has its legends and heroes. We all live and die, and hopefully - somewhere in the middle of all that living and dying - we learn to love. Do you think we'll ever figure out that we are more alike than we are different?
It was a day of play for the kids with various games and crafts. Who knew I could actually make a Chinese yoyo spin? Several of the students from the Chinese Student Association at the U of R joined in the fun. There was a fashion show and lantern parade, followed by a pot-luck dinner and slide show. And last but not least, was the story teller. The Chinese tell a fascinating legend at the time of the Autumn Moon Festival and this was the version the story teller shared with us (dating back to around 2170 B.C.), with the help of several of the children who acted out the tale as it unfolded:
On the other side of the world is a country with a long and rich history. That country is China. China has many traditions. One of those is called the Moon Festival. Every year in China, on the 15th night of the 8th lunar month, the Chinese people celebrate the Moon Festival. The moon is the most full and bright on that night, they believe, because a husband and wife who lost one another are reunited on the moon.
This is the story of Hou Yi and Chang Er.
Once upon a time there was a famous archer, Hou Yi, who with his arrows was able to slay mankind’s worst enemies, ferocious beasts that inhabited the earth. Yi was married to Chang Er, a beautiful but inquisitive woman who had been an attendant of the queen mother of the west before her marriage. Now at this time, there were 10 suns that took turns circling the earth-one every 10 days. One day, all 10 of the orbs circled, together, causing the earth’s surface to burn and threatening mankind. The wise emperor of China summoned Yi and commanded him to shoot down all but one of the suns. This Yi proceeded to do. Upon the completion of his task, Yi was rewarded with a pill, the elixir of life, and advised: "make no haste to swallow this pill, but first prepare yourself with prayer and fasting for a year." Being a wise man, Yi took the pill home and hid it under a rafter while he began healing his spirit. In the midst of this, Yi was summoned again by the emperor.
While her husband was gone, Chang Er noticed a beam of white light beckoning from the rafter. She followed it and a fragrant perfume, discovered the pill and swallowed it. Immediately, Chang Er found she could fly. Just at that moment her husband returned home. Yi quickly realized what had happened and before he could begin to reprimand his wife, she flew out the window into the sky. Yi sped after Chang Er, bow in hand, and the pursuit continued halfway across the heavens. Finally, Yi had to return to the earth because of the force of the wind.
His wife reached the moon and there, breathless, she coughed. And because part of the pill fell from her mouth, it is there that she came to rest. Now, the hare was already on the moon and Chang Er commanded the animal to take pestle and mortar and pound another pill so that she could return to earth and her husband. The hare is still pounding.
How did the hare get on the moon you ask? Well, there's a legend for that as well: Three sages transformed themselves into pitiful old men and begged for something to eat from a fox, a monkey and a rabbit. The fox and the monkey both had food to give to the old men, but the rabbit, empty-handed, offered his own flesh instead, jumping into a blazing fire to cook himself. The fairies were so touched by the rabbit's sacrifice that they let him live in the Moon Palace where he became the "Jade Rabbit."
As for Yi, he built himself a palace in the sun as Yang (the sun and the male principle). His beloved Chang Er as Yin (the moon and the female principle), resides in the Moon Palace.
Once a year, on the 15th day of the full moon, Yi visits his wife. That is why the moon is full and beautiful on that night.
To celebrate Hou Yi's and Chang Er’s night of love, the Chinese people celebrate the Moon Festival. They eat Moon Cakes, which have a very special meaning. A long time ago the Mongols took over China and they were very cruel to the people. A brave Chinese man named Liu Fu Tong made little cakes in the shape of the moon. Inside each cake he hid a written message that told the people, "On the 15th night of the 8th month, rise up and fight the Mongols to take back our land," and the Chinese people took back their country.
Every culture has its legends and heroes. We all live and die, and hopefully - somewhere in the middle of all that living and dying - we learn to love. Do you think we'll ever figure out that we are more alike than we are different?
Thursday, September 11, 2008
WALL*E
WALL*E (short for Waste Allocation Load Lifter * Earth-class) is undoubtedly the most engaging superhero of the summer. Whether you're 4 or 40, you're gonna fall for him. Elizabeth particularly likes the vacuum vignette video. She laughs uncontrollably every time she sees it. So, go ahead. Click on WALL*E. And just try not to be charmed.
Saturday, September 6, 2008
More referrals ...
Referrals have arrived for those with LIDs of 2/1/2006 through 2/9/2006. Of those 9 days, only 4 were of actual log-in-dates (LIDs). It turns out that 2/1-5/2006 fell during Chinese New Year. Still, 4 days is twice as many as last month. Our LID is 2/27/2006, so our best guess is a referral in December and travel sometime after the 1st of the year. But it's just a guess.
Monday, September 1, 2008
A Trip Home ...
For most of us 315ers from Oswego County, summer would not be complete without at least 1 trip to "The Loop," where we would go to Rudy's for the best fish sandwich, hamburger hot or Hoffman's coney that you can find. In fact, folks who used to live there (myself included) like to stop by Rudy's when they go back to visit, as we did today.
More than 60 years ago, Rudy's started out as a tiny little lakeside stand that had a small menu but a big following. Over the years, Rudy's has expanded and is now much larger than when they first opened. Located on the shores of Lake Ontario, Rudy's is just on the edge of the SUNY Oswego campus. Actually, the easiest way to get to Rudy's is to go through the campus itself, but watch out for those campus police because they enforce their campus speed limit with an iron fist!
Inside Rudy's, the atmosphere is controlled chaos. You go up to the counter to place your order, which they write down on the back of a paper plate. You're given a slip of paper with a number on it, then you wait (and watch) while they make your food. And there really aren't any lines to the counter per se, you just kind of join the throng of people and somehow, everyone eventually makes it up there. When you finally get your food, it's loaded into a cardboard box tray. Your soda comes in a can, your beer in a bottle and your milk is the kind you got with your school lunch. There really aren't very many places to sit down inside Rudy's, but that's OK since you don't go there to eat inside. There are dozens of picnic tables lakeside and that is where you really want to eat (if you don't mind an occasional stinky dead fish) because the view is just extraordinary.
After dinner, it's down to the water to skip a few rocks into the lake. You would think that after more than 60 years of people skipping rocks into Lake Ontario that the lakeside would be devoid of rocks but somehow, they're still there year after year. I would imagine that several of those rocks have made it into the homes and aquariums of many central New Yorkers. In fact, I can attest that at least 1 has made it to Rochester.
After skipping rocks, it's time for dessert. Rudy's serves dessert, but those "in-the-know" never go to Rudy's for dessert. After dinner and rock-skipping, walk on down to the little ice cream stand called "Bev's" and get your ice cream there. Then sit on a bench or at a picnic table and eat your ice cream while the sun sets over the lake. It is just so beautiful, and I've always experienced a sense of peace and contentment there. Maybe it's because it's a memory my parents gave to me. And maybe it's a memory that we can give to our daughters.
More than 60 years ago, Rudy's started out as a tiny little lakeside stand that had a small menu but a big following. Over the years, Rudy's has expanded and is now much larger than when they first opened. Located on the shores of Lake Ontario, Rudy's is just on the edge of the SUNY Oswego campus. Actually, the easiest way to get to Rudy's is to go through the campus itself, but watch out for those campus police because they enforce their campus speed limit with an iron fist!
Inside Rudy's, the atmosphere is controlled chaos. You go up to the counter to place your order, which they write down on the back of a paper plate. You're given a slip of paper with a number on it, then you wait (and watch) while they make your food. And there really aren't any lines to the counter per se, you just kind of join the throng of people and somehow, everyone eventually makes it up there. When you finally get your food, it's loaded into a cardboard box tray. Your soda comes in a can, your beer in a bottle and your milk is the kind you got with your school lunch. There really aren't very many places to sit down inside Rudy's, but that's OK since you don't go there to eat inside. There are dozens of picnic tables lakeside and that is where you really want to eat (if you don't mind an occasional stinky dead fish) because the view is just extraordinary.
After dinner, it's down to the water to skip a few rocks into the lake. You would think that after more than 60 years of people skipping rocks into Lake Ontario that the lakeside would be devoid of rocks but somehow, they're still there year after year. I would imagine that several of those rocks have made it into the homes and aquariums of many central New Yorkers. In fact, I can attest that at least 1 has made it to Rochester.
After skipping rocks, it's time for dessert. Rudy's serves dessert, but those "in-the-know" never go to Rudy's for dessert. After dinner and rock-skipping, walk on down to the little ice cream stand called "Bev's" and get your ice cream there. Then sit on a bench or at a picnic table and eat your ice cream while the sun sets over the lake. It is just so beautiful, and I've always experienced a sense of peace and contentment there. Maybe it's because it's a memory my parents gave to me. And maybe it's a memory that we can give to our daughters.
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Saturday, August 9, 2008
Coxsackie!
I've been a bit lax on the blogging lately. Our usually very healthy girl picked up a Coxsackie virus at preschool and came down with Hand, Foot, and Mouth Disease. What a nasty little bug! Although highly contagious, it's considered a "mild" virus. Mild? It caused such painful ulcerations in her throat, and on her tongue, cheeks, gums and hard palate, that it was difficult for her to eat, sleep or even talk. And although complications are rare, I worried about possible viral meningitis, encephalitis and myocarditis.
Hydration and pain control are the keys to suviving the 7-10 day period of misery and suffering. My professional recommendations (and what helped us survive) include: Alternating acetaminophen and ibuprofen every 3 hours while the ulcers are present, using diphenhydramine to help with sleep at night, and providing chocolate milkshakes laced with Carnation Instant Breakfast ad lib. She's the picture of health now, but I have to admit that after more than a week of averaging 3 hours of sleep a night, I was feeling more like something the cat dragged in (or threw up).
Oh, to be 4 (or even 40) again ...
Hydration and pain control are the keys to suviving the 7-10 day period of misery and suffering. My professional recommendations (and what helped us survive) include: Alternating acetaminophen and ibuprofen every 3 hours while the ulcers are present, using diphenhydramine to help with sleep at night, and providing chocolate milkshakes laced with Carnation Instant Breakfast ad lib. She's the picture of health now, but I have to admit that after more than a week of averaging 3 hours of sleep a night, I was feeling more like something the cat dragged in (or threw up).
Oh, to be 4 (or even 40) again ...
Next batch of referrals ...
Saturday, July 19, 2008
Corn Hill Arts Festival
Last weekend, we went to the Corn Hill Arts Festival. Corn Hill is Rochester's oldest residential neighborhood, long known as "The Third Ward." Flour millers and merchants built impressive homes during Rochester's first growth spurt after the building of the Erie Canal in the 1820s & 30s. Rochesterians called the neighborhood "The Ruffled Shirt Ward" because of the prosperity of its residents with their substantial homes & mansions of architectural diversity & style. Founding meetings were held here for the University of Rochester & Rochester General Hospital.
The advent of income tax, two World Wars, and the construction of super highways in the 20th century caused the resplendent days of the Third Ward to diminish. Large houses were made into apartments. The construction of I-490 cut through the north portion of the Third Ward. Its path cleared many houses standing in the way. Rochester's first mayor and early leaders once lived in the area demolished in the name of "progress."
The Urban Renewal Program of the 1960s threatened to take what was left of the Third Ward. Rochester would lose an important part of its historic homes & heritage. In 1964, the Landmark Society did architectural surveys of surviving homes to persuade the government to include a conservation area in the urban renewal plan. Residents who worked to revive the neighborhood formed an organization to promote & protect the area, named "The Corn Hill Neighbors Association." The name was taken from early land deeds in the area known as "The Corn Hill Tract."
In 1968, a group of artists living on Greenwood Street organized a small arts festival, which grew into the annual Corn Hill Arts Festival. Now listed as one of the top 200 festivals in the U.S., over 250,000 people converge on this small neighborhood each year to view the wares of over 500 of the country's finest artists and craftspeople. And we were no exception!
The advent of income tax, two World Wars, and the construction of super highways in the 20th century caused the resplendent days of the Third Ward to diminish. Large houses were made into apartments. The construction of I-490 cut through the north portion of the Third Ward. Its path cleared many houses standing in the way. Rochester's first mayor and early leaders once lived in the area demolished in the name of "progress."
The Urban Renewal Program of the 1960s threatened to take what was left of the Third Ward. Rochester would lose an important part of its historic homes & heritage. In 1964, the Landmark Society did architectural surveys of surviving homes to persuade the government to include a conservation area in the urban renewal plan. Residents who worked to revive the neighborhood formed an organization to promote & protect the area, named "The Corn Hill Neighbors Association." The name was taken from early land deeds in the area known as "The Corn Hill Tract."
In 1968, a group of artists living on Greenwood Street organized a small arts festival, which grew into the annual Corn Hill Arts Festival. Now listed as one of the top 200 festivals in the U.S., over 250,000 people converge on this small neighborhood each year to view the wares of over 500 of the country's finest artists and craftspeople. And we were no exception!
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Babies!!
Referrals have arrived for those with LIDs of 1/21-25/2006, and there are some BEAUTIFUL babies! If you want to see those sweet, sweet faces, you can check out the blogs of the very happy parents through RQ's site (http://chinaadopttalk.com/2008/07/07/babies-13/) Some day it will be us, some day ...
Friday, July 4, 2008
Happy 4th Of July!
The Declaration of Independence
IN CONGRESS, July 4, 1776
The unanimous Declaration of the thirteen united States of America,
When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume, among the Powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature's God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness. That, to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just Powers from the consent of the governed. That, whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such Principles and organizing its Powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and, accordingly, all experience hath shown, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But, when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object, evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security. Such has been the patient sufferance of these Colonies; and such is now the necessity which constrains them to alter their former Systems of Government. The history of the present King of Great Britain is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute Tyranny over these States. To prove this, let Facts be submitted to a candid world.
Nor have We been wanting in attentions to our British brethren. We have warned them from time to time of attempts by their legislature to extend an unwarrantable jurisdiction over us. We have reminded them of the circumstances of our emigration and settlement here. We have appealed to their native justice and magnanimity, and we have conjured them by the ties of our common kindred, to disavow these usurpations, which would inevitably interrupt our connections and correspondence. They too have been deaf to the voice of justice and of consanguinity. We must, therefore, acquiesce in the necessity, which denounces our Separation, and hold them, as we hold the rest of mankind, Enemies in War, in Peace Friends.
We, therefore, the Representatives of the united States of America, in GENERAL CONGRESS assembled, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the World for the rectitude of our intentions, DO, in the Name, and by Authority of the good People of these Colonies, solemnly PUBLISH and DECLARE, That these United Colonies are, and of Right, ought to be free and Independent States; that they are Absolved from all Allegiance to the British Crown, and that all political connection between them and the State of Great Britain, is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that, as FREE and INDEPENDENT STATES, they have full Power to levy War, conclude Peace, contract Alliances, establish Commerce, and to do all other Acts and Things which INDEPENDENT STATES may of right do. AND for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our Lives, our Fortunes and our sacred Honor.
Signed by ORDER and in BEHALF of the CONGRESS
JOHN HANCOCK, President
Attest.
CHARLES THOMSON, Secretary
New Hampshire: JOSIAH BARTLETT, WILLIAM WHIPPLE, MATTHEW THORNTON
Massachusetts-Bay: SAMUEL ADAMS, JOHN ADAMS, ROBERT TREAT PAINE, ELBRIDGE GERRY
Rhode Island: STEPHEN HOPKINS, WILLIAM ELLERY
Connecticut: ROGER SHERMAN, SAMUEL HUNTINGTON, WILLIAM WILLIAMS, OLIVER WOLCOTT
Georgia: BUTTON GWINNETT, LYMAN HALL, GEO. WALTON
Maryland: SAMUEL CHASE, WILLIAM PACA, THOMAS STONE, CHARLES CARROLL OF CARROLLTON
Virginia: GEORGE WYTHE, RICHARD HENRY LEE, THOMAS JEFFERSON, BENJAMIN HARRISON, THOMAS NELSON, JR., FRANCIS LIGHTFOOT LEE, CARTER BRAXTON.
New York: WILLIAM FLOYD, PHILIP LIVINGSTON, FRANCIS LEWIS, LEWIS MORRIS
Pennsylvania: ROBERT MORRIS, BENJAMIN RUSH, BENJAMIN FRANKLIN, JOHN MORTON, GEORGE CLYMER, JAMES SMITH, GEORGE TAYLOR, JAMES WILSON, GEORGE ROSS
Delaware: CAESAR RODNEY, GEORGE READ, THOMAS M'KEAN
North Carolina: WILLIAM HOOPER, JOSEPH HEWES, JOHN PENN
South Carolina: EDWARD RUTLEDGE, THOMAS HEYWARD, JR., THOMAS LYNCH, JR., ARTHUR MIDDLETON
New Jersey: RICHARD STOCKTON, JOHN WITHERSPOON, FRANCIS HOPKINS, JOHN HART, ABRAHAM CLARK
The unanimous Declaration of the thirteen united States of America,
When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume, among the Powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature's God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness. That, to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just Powers from the consent of the governed. That, whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such Principles and organizing its Powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and, accordingly, all experience hath shown, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But, when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object, evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security. Such has been the patient sufferance of these Colonies; and such is now the necessity which constrains them to alter their former Systems of Government. The history of the present King of Great Britain is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute Tyranny over these States. To prove this, let Facts be submitted to a candid world.
He has refused his Assent to Laws, the most wholesome and necessary for the public good.In every stage of these Oppressions, We have Petitioned for Redress in the most humble terms: Our repeated Petitions have been answered only by repeated injury. A Prince, whose character is thus marked by every act which may define a Tyrant, is unfit to be the ruler of a free People.
He has forbidden his Governors to pass Laws of immediate and pressing importance, unless suspended in their operation till his Assent should be obtained; and when so suspended, he has utterly neglected to attend to them.
He has refused to pass other Laws for the accommodation of large districts of People, unless those People would relinquish the right of Representation in the legislature; a right inestimable to them and formidable to tyrants only.
He has called together legislative bodies at places unusual, uncomfortable, and distant from the depository of their Public Records, for the sole purpose of fatiguing them into compliance with his measures.
He has dissolved Representative Houses repeatedly, for opposing, with manly firmness, his invasions on the rights of the People.
He has refused for a long time, after such dissolutions, to cause others to be elected; whereby the Legislative Powers, incapable of Annihilation, have returned to the People at large for their exercise; the State remaining in the mean time exposed to all the dangers of invasion from without, and convulsions within.
He has endeavoured to prevent the Population of these States; for that purpose obstructing the Laws of Naturalization of Foreigners; refusing to pass others to encourage their migrations hither, and raising the conditions of new Appropriations of Lands.
He has obstructed the Administration of Justice, by refusing his Assent to Laws for establishing Judiciary Powers.
He has made Judges dependent on his Will alone, for the tenure of their offices, and the amount and payment of their salaries.
He has erected a multitude of New Offices, and sent hither swarms of Officers to harass our People, and eat out their substance.
He has kept among us, in times of Peace, Standing Armies without the Consent of our legislatures.
He has affected to render the Military independent of and superior to the Civil Power.
He has combined with others to subject us to a jurisdiction foreign to our constitution, and unacknowledged by our laws; giving his Assent to their Acts of pretended Legislation:For quartering large bodies of armed troops among us:He has abdicated Government here, by declaring us out of his protection, and waging War against us.
For protecting them, by a mock Trial, from Punishment for any Murders which they should commit on the Inhabitants of these States:
For cutting off our Trade with all parts of the world:
For imposing Taxes on us without our Consent:
For depriving us, in many cases, of the benefits of Trial by Jury:
For transporting us beyond Seas to be tried for pretended offences:
For abolishing the free System of English Laws in a neighbouring Province, establishing therein an Arbitrary government, and enlarging its Boundaries so as to render it at once an example and fit instrument for introducing the same absolute rule into these Colonies:
For taking away our Charters, abolishing our most valuable Laws, and altering fundamentally the Forms of our Governments:
For suspending our own Legislatures, and declaring themselves invested with Power to legislate for us in all cases whatsoever.
He has plundered our seas, ravaged our Coasts, burnt our towns, and destroyed the Lives of our People.
He is at this time transporting large Armies of foreign Mercenaries to compleat the works of death, desolation and tyranny, already begun with circumstances of Cruelty and perfidy scarcely paralleled in the most barbarous ages, and totally unworthy the Head of a civilized nation.
He has constrained our fellow Citizens, taken Captive on the high Seas to bear Arms against their Country, to become the executioners of their friends and Brethren, or to fall themselves by their Hands.
He has excited domestic insurrections amongst us, and has endeavoured to bring on the inhabitants of our frontiers, the merciless Indian Savages, whose known rule of warfare, is an undistinguished destruction of all ages, sexes and conditions.
Nor have We been wanting in attentions to our British brethren. We have warned them from time to time of attempts by their legislature to extend an unwarrantable jurisdiction over us. We have reminded them of the circumstances of our emigration and settlement here. We have appealed to their native justice and magnanimity, and we have conjured them by the ties of our common kindred, to disavow these usurpations, which would inevitably interrupt our connections and correspondence. They too have been deaf to the voice of justice and of consanguinity. We must, therefore, acquiesce in the necessity, which denounces our Separation, and hold them, as we hold the rest of mankind, Enemies in War, in Peace Friends.
We, therefore, the Representatives of the united States of America, in GENERAL CONGRESS assembled, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the World for the rectitude of our intentions, DO, in the Name, and by Authority of the good People of these Colonies, solemnly PUBLISH and DECLARE, That these United Colonies are, and of Right, ought to be free and Independent States; that they are Absolved from all Allegiance to the British Crown, and that all political connection between them and the State of Great Britain, is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that, as FREE and INDEPENDENT STATES, they have full Power to levy War, conclude Peace, contract Alliances, establish Commerce, and to do all other Acts and Things which INDEPENDENT STATES may of right do. AND for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our Lives, our Fortunes and our sacred Honor.
Signed by ORDER and in BEHALF of the CONGRESS
JOHN HANCOCK, President
Attest.
CHARLES THOMSON, Secretary
New Hampshire: JOSIAH BARTLETT, WILLIAM WHIPPLE, MATTHEW THORNTON
Massachusetts-Bay: SAMUEL ADAMS, JOHN ADAMS, ROBERT TREAT PAINE, ELBRIDGE GERRY
Rhode Island: STEPHEN HOPKINS, WILLIAM ELLERY
Connecticut: ROGER SHERMAN, SAMUEL HUNTINGTON, WILLIAM WILLIAMS, OLIVER WOLCOTT
Georgia: BUTTON GWINNETT, LYMAN HALL, GEO. WALTON
Maryland: SAMUEL CHASE, WILLIAM PACA, THOMAS STONE, CHARLES CARROLL OF CARROLLTON
Virginia: GEORGE WYTHE, RICHARD HENRY LEE, THOMAS JEFFERSON, BENJAMIN HARRISON, THOMAS NELSON, JR., FRANCIS LIGHTFOOT LEE, CARTER BRAXTON.
New York: WILLIAM FLOYD, PHILIP LIVINGSTON, FRANCIS LEWIS, LEWIS MORRIS
Pennsylvania: ROBERT MORRIS, BENJAMIN RUSH, BENJAMIN FRANKLIN, JOHN MORTON, GEORGE CLYMER, JAMES SMITH, GEORGE TAYLOR, JAMES WILSON, GEORGE ROSS
Delaware: CAESAR RODNEY, GEORGE READ, THOMAS M'KEAN
North Carolina: WILLIAM HOOPER, JOSEPH HEWES, JOHN PENN
South Carolina: EDWARD RUTLEDGE, THOMAS HEYWARD, JR., THOMAS LYNCH, JR., ARTHUR MIDDLETON
New Jersey: RICHARD STOCKTON, JOHN WITHERSPOON, FRANCIS HOPKINS, JOHN HART, ABRAHAM CLARK
Thursday, July 3, 2008
Referrals ...
Looks like the referrals are on their way for families with LIDs of 1/21-25/2006. Half the size of last month's batch. Pretty depressing. And although it still appears we'll have our referral and see our child's face before the end of the year, I can't help but feel badly for all of those waiting families in line behind us.
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Lepidoptera!!
Elizabeth received a "Butterfly Garden" for Christmas from her Aunt Debie. Now this was a really cool gift that we all enjoyed! We chose to wait until the weather warmed up and then sent for the mail-order Painted Lady butterfly larvae. We received a small plastic cup with 5 bristly caterpillars that we watched spin silken webs and eat special food for about a week or so. They then climbed to the top of the container, each suspending themselves from a single silk thread, and formed cocoons. Once all of the caterpillars were in the pupa stage, we carefully removed the top of the container that held the chrysalids and pinned it inside the Butterfly Garden to a mesh wall. And then we waited ... and waited ... and waited ... at least it seemed that way.
About 10 days later, 5 Painted Lady butterflies emerged and the metamorphosis was complete! It was quite amazing to see, but "kind of yucky" according to Elizabeth (the butterflies excreted meconium and she thought it was blood). We placed fresh-cut flowers and watermelon doused with sugar water inside the Garden and watched as each one dropped onto the food and used their proboscis to drink. They fluttered about and we enjoyed them for a couple of days before deciding to release them, so that they could live out the remainder of their life cycle (about 2 weeks) as nature intended.
The first 4 butterflies left us without looking back. The last one had to be coaxed out of its artificial habitat and then just sat on our deck seeming to think about things for a bit. When we picked it up to try and encourage it to follow its siblings, it flew to Jim and sat on him for a bit. I was beginnning to think we had a "special needs" butterfly. Finally, it seemed to grasp the concept and took a leap of faith. It didn't follow the others, but instead headed off in its own direction, against the wind and into the sunset. It was odd, but I felt a sense of concern as it initially struggled and then a sense of pride when it finally succeeded. Maybe I've taken this motherhood gig just a bit too far ...
About 10 days later, 5 Painted Lady butterflies emerged and the metamorphosis was complete! It was quite amazing to see, but "kind of yucky" according to Elizabeth (the butterflies excreted meconium and she thought it was blood). We placed fresh-cut flowers and watermelon doused with sugar water inside the Garden and watched as each one dropped onto the food and used their proboscis to drink. They fluttered about and we enjoyed them for a couple of days before deciding to release them, so that they could live out the remainder of their life cycle (about 2 weeks) as nature intended.
The first 4 butterflies left us without looking back. The last one had to be coaxed out of its artificial habitat and then just sat on our deck seeming to think about things for a bit. When we picked it up to try and encourage it to follow its siblings, it flew to Jim and sat on him for a bit. I was beginnning to think we had a "special needs" butterfly. Finally, it seemed to grasp the concept and took a leap of faith. It didn't follow the others, but instead headed off in its own direction, against the wind and into the sunset. It was odd, but I felt a sense of concern as it initially struggled and then a sense of pride when it finally succeeded. Maybe I've taken this motherhood gig just a bit too far ...
Early rumors ...
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Happy Father's Day, Dada ...
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